The author of this article lists twenty-six comparisons between men and drugs. With inspired insight such as:
They put you through ups and downs and string you out.
They leave scars all over you.
They impair your judgment and your clarity.
They deceive you into thinking things are great.
They have horrible comedowns that can’t be assuaged by water.
Men are nothing like drugs. Women are nothing like drugs. No group of people is anything similar to drugs. Little effort is required to like something on Facebook, but the fact that more than 1,400 people liked this post is disturbing. At the very least, they must agree with the general idea suggested in the title, that men are like drugs. Or, to some degree, they agree with the overall sentiment that men are, as a group, life-altering forces that will ruin your mind and body.
Writers of women’s columns who insist on demonizing guys probably don’t realize the negative messages they are sending to young men still developing their sense of identity, not to mention young women who look to mature women for guidance with what to look for in a man. What message does it send to boys if women are so comfortable undermining men as a group in such a blatant way?
Any young man who understood these comparisons to be commonplace characteristics of men and therefore acted upon them, would grow to be a horrible person. All of these comparisons are very serious indicators of a terribly unhealthy relationship. Nobody should be subjected to a relationship that matches these descriptions, despite their gender.
Why is it that men collectively inherit these vile traits? This unfair and inaccurate description doesn’t match a single man I know, but when prescribed to men as group, readers nod their heads in agreement. At best, this article is one among thousands of shoddy rants pandering to the lowest common denominator – designed to grab the attention of angry women looking for a villain.
When reading articles such as these, young men need to remember to explore the author’s occasion for writing. Perhaps her purpose is to feel better about her bad decisions with men or to commiserate with fellow women in an attempt to justify her past choices. Whether or not this article was written with intentions of being humorous, do not make the mistake of understanding it as the voice of the masses.
This article not a reflection of the average man’s character or the average woman’s opinion. Never make the mistake of treating these messages as such.
Gentlemen, be wary of these messages and the people who eat them up. Beneath rants and comedy pieces like this lie true opinions and prejudices. No good reason to demoralize an entire group of people in this way exists. Misogynistic jokes are only funny to misogynists; racist jokes are only funny to racists.
No list of analogies encapsulates all men. Masculinity is not that simple, despite what you might regularly read or hear. Do not make the mistake of only living up to the depressingly low standards writers of these articles expect of you. Hold true to your values. Shape your actions to reinforce those values and work toward making the world a better place for others. Use your words and the power of your voice to help others do the same. Only you can effectively define your character.
(originally published on Young Men's Nation)